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Ukuba ungumntu othe wagqiba ekubeni aphakamise intombi yakhe, uyaqiniseka ukuba ukhathazekile malunga nendlela yokwenza "indlela efanelekileyo." Ukuzibandakanya kubaluleke kakhulu. Kuthetha ukuba uza kufaka isahluko esilandelayo ebomini bakho, ngoko-ke ngaphambi kokuba uwele emadolweni, funda le nto kwaye ungenzi iziphakamiso zomtshato wendabuko.
Isiluleko somtshato
- Uvavanye amanzi: Ngaphambi kokuba ucebise, bobabini kufuneka ukuba sele nithethile ngokutshata . Qinisekisa ukuba umtshato uyinto enu ngamnye ofuna, kwaye niqinisekise ukuba nonke nivumelana kwimibandela enjengezingane. Lo ngumbuzo omkhulu ongafaneleki ukuphuma ohlaza okwesibhakabhaka. Awufuni ukuba athathwe ngokupheleleyo, njengokuba isiphakamiso esimangalisayo ngokuqinisekileyo siqinisekisiwe ukuba senze umxhwele "ewe," ukuba akunjalo, "Ndiza kucinga ngako."
- Yenza into emangalisayo: Nangona uxoxe ngokutshata, umyalelo wokutshata ngokwawo unako-kwaye kufuneka umangaliswe. Fumana umzuzu kunye nendlela angayi kukhankanya ngayo .
- Zilungiselele: "Uya kutshata na?" Umbuzo olula, kodwa ibinzana elinzima elishiya iziphakamiso ezininzi ezilwimi ngokupheleleyo. Zenza! Kungathi uzizwe uceceke, kodwa zithetha amazwi ngokukhawuleza ngamaxesha ambalwa. Ungabhala phantsi kwaye ukhumbule ngokuqinisekileyo oko uya kuthetha ukuqiniseka ukuba uphelele kwaye unentembelo ngokusemandleni akho.
- Ngaba ufumanisa intambo yokubambisana ngokufanelekileyo: Njengoko ukugqoka ingxowa yokubandakanyeka kukuzibophelela kwimihla ngemihla, qiniseka ukuba kulungile . Unokufumana ithuba lokuthenga iifestile kwiimvumi xa uhamba ngaphaya kwevenkile, okanye ungayifaka kwincoko. Unokubuza kwakhona unina, udade, umhlobo ongcono, njl. Ukunceda ukhethe umgca.
- Ngaba uyazi ukuba ufuna ukukhetha ingqungquthela yokubambisana: Abanye abafazi abaza kuba ngabanye malunga nezobucwebo zabo kwaye bafuna ukuba yinxalenye yenkqubo, kwaye kunjalo ngokufanelekileyo: umncinci unotyalo-mali olukhulu, ngoko ke indlela engcono yokwenza uyaqiniseka ukuba uyayithanda ngaphezu kokuthenga kunye kunye? Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokulahlekelwa yinto enothusayo kuba sele ulindele ingqungquthela ethile, kodwa ukuba uthethe ngomtshato, uyazi ukuba isiphakamiso siza kungekudala okanye kamva.
- Ngaba uthetha nabazali bakhe: Sifumane indlela ende ukusuka kwiintsuku zeendlwana, kodwa kusekhona into ehloniphekileyo ngokucela ukuba iintsikelelo zabazali .
- Khetha iindawo zakho: Cinga ngeendawo ozithandayo zokuthandana kwaye ukhethe indawo ebalulekileyo ekupheni umbuzo. Kungaba lula njengoko kufakwe kwigumbi lakho lokulala okanye kunzima njengokumtshintshela kude ngeveki eParis. Musa nje ukumbuza kwi-esitle esitolo!
- Yiba nobumba : Hlanganisa ubuntu bakho, izinto ezizithandayo, izinto zokuzilibazisa, njl njl. Kwisiphakamiso. Yenze ibe yinto ekhethekileyo kwaye ayikhunjulwe kunokuba isilungiselelo se-cookie cutter.
- Yehla ekhotheni elinye: Kwakhona, amaxesha atshintshile, kodwa kukho into enomtsalane nokuthandana ngendoda ngamadolo athile ecela uthando lobomi bakhe ukuba atshade naye. Nangona awuyiyo indoda yendabuko, iya kwenza ukuba isiphakamiso siphumelele.
- Mxelele ukuba kutheni ufuna ukutshata naye: Musa ukuthetha amagama amane omncinci. Ngoku yithuba eligqibeleleyo lokumxelela ukuba kutheni yena ungomnye kuni, yintoni umtshato uthetha kuwe kunye nokuba nethemba lakho lizayo. Usenokuthetha into enje, "Ubomi bam abuzange buze bube bufanayo emva kokuba ndidibana nawe.Uye wandenza ndonwabe ngakumbi, ndomelele ngakumbi kwaye ndiphefumlelwe kakhulu. Ngaba uya kundenza uzuko lomtshato? "
- Yabelana ngeendaba: Musa ukuziva ngathi kufuneka uqhube ukubandakanyeka ngokukhawuleza. Thatha umzuzwana, okanye nantoni na ukude uthanda, ukucinga ngokubambisana kwakho kunye kunye. Yabelana ngeendaba xa ulungele.
Umtsalane Wokutshata Umtshato
- Musa ukuyibeka esidlangalaleni: Ukuba ngaba ngababhali beemibhalo bafanele bakholwe, ke zonke iziphakamiso zomtshato zenzeka kwisitalato phambi kwamakhulu abantu. Ngaphandle kokuba uthe uthe ufuna isiphakamiso esincinci, indlela elula yokwenza isiphakamiso sibe sisondlo, into ethile. Abaninzi abafazi-bokuba babeza kukhetha ukuba loo mzuzu umlingo ube phakathi kobabini benu. Emva kwakho konke, unobomi bakho bonke ukuxelela abanye abantu ngomtshato wakho, kodwa unomzuzu omnye wokubandakanya.
- Musa ukufihla intambo yokudibanisa ekudleni: Ndiyithiyile ukuthetha, njengoko ndiqinisekile ukuba kukho abafundi abathile abaceba ukukwenza oku oku, kodwa ukufihla ingxowa yokudibanisa ekudleni yinto ekhulelwe. Kuye kumafilimu anamawaka kunye nemiboniso yeTV, kwaye awuyi kuphumelela nawaphi na amaphuzu okudala.
- Musa ukuphakamisa kumdlalo wezemidlalo: kuxhomekeke kumtshakazi wakho kunye nolwalamano olunalo, kodwa ngokubanzi imidlalo yezemidlalo ayilona ndawo iphakanyisiweyo. Bakhala ngokukhawuleza, banobukroti kwaye awuyi kuba nako naluphi na umboniso wesithandane olunjalo.
- Musa ukwenza phambi kwentsapho yakhe: Iziphakamiso phambi kweentsapho zongeza enye ingcinezelo yoxinzelelo ongayidingiyo. Thatha lo mzuzwana ukuba ube ngabini nje. Iintsapho zakho ziya kudibanisa nomtshato wakho ngokungafihliyo, kwaye akudingeki ukuba ube khona xa uvula umbuzo. Ungakhathazeki: unokubiza umntu emva koko.
- Musa ukwenza kube nzima kakhulu: Ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka uzame ukuba yinto ekhethekileyo kunye nobuchule kwisiphakamiso sakho, kodwa, ngaphezu kwakho konke, kubalulekile ukugcina ingqalelo kwizinto ezibalulekileyo ngokwenene: isiphakamiso ngokwaso. Ukuba awukwazi ukugxininisa kuba uxhalaba malunga nokuba ngaba i-limousine ayiyi kukhwela ibhaluni ngexesha, ngoko uxhalabele ngento engalunganga.
- Ungaphakamiseli ngaphambili kwidlelwane: Xa usukhutshwe kulolu hlobo luthando olungenakuqala, kunzima ukwenza izinto ezingenangqondo, eziyintsipho. Qinisekisa ukuba uyayazi ngokwenene kwaye yiyiphi into oyifunayo emtshatweni ngaphambi kokuba uzinikele omnye komnye ubomi bakho. Ukulinda de ulwalamano lwakho luzinzile luya kuqinisa umtshato wakho kuphela. Kubalulekile ukuba nomonde omncinci.
- Musa ukulindela ukuba athi, "ewe," ngokukhawuleza: Ukucela umntu ukuba atshade naye unomsebenzi omkhulu. Ucela umntu ukuba asebenzise lonke ubomi bakhe kunye nawe. Ngethemba ukuba nina babini nixoxe ngomtshato kwaye niphepha kwiphepha elifanayo, ngoko uya kuphendula ngesigxina esithi "Ewe!" Kodwa ngenxa yokuba ucelile akuthethi ukuba ulungile. Ukuba unomtsalane uthi, "Mhlawumbi," thabatha ngokukhawuleza kwaye umnike ixesha lokuqwalasela isiphakamiso. Awufuni ukuba lo mntu omangalisayo atshate wonke uTom, uDick noHarry abambuzayo, ngaba wena?